Divorce can be a frightening experience and taking that first step is sometimes difficult. First, find a law firm that handles divorces as a regular part of its law practice. The best recommendations come from people who have knowledge of a lawyer’s experience and reputation. Take your time in choosing a lawyer that is right for your case. This is one of the most important decisions you will make with respect to your divorce. Find an attorney you are comfortable discussing your case with as the attorney will likely learn more about your life than is known or shared with even close friends and family. Having a comfort level that this is a person you can speak with freely, who understands your situation, and who will completely represent you is important. State bar associations often have a list of attorneys who have been certified as specialists in family law if you need to obtain names of potential lawyers in the area of family law.

Even if you are not ready to file for divorce, you may find it helpful to call and schedule an appointment with a lawyer to obtain basic information about protecting yourself and your children. Many times these initial consultations are to simply explore the process so you know what to expect, especially if you believe your spouse is planning on filing for divorce.

Ask what documents you should bring to your initial consultation. Write down specific questions to ask the attorney. By making a list of your questions to bring to your first meeting you will avoid leaving the office and forgetting to ask one of your questions. In addition to specific questions unique to your circumstances, your questions should include: the attorneys’ approach to dividing assets, whether your case will involve a claim for spousal support, what you can expect in terms of a time-line, the attorneys’ form of communication with clients, the amount of retainer required to start the case, whether the attorney has the time necessary to devote to your case.